Remember when you were a kid and you threw a fit at the grocery store and you mama proceeded to not only drag your ass out of the store but then not get you your candy? The reason why she did this is to show you that throwing tantrums, always complaining, and being rude would not get you what you wanted. After multiple instances of failed tantrums, you learned your lesson; you started asking for things nicely and taking no for an answer. At least I did ‘cause my mother was no joke. You probably even took that courteous behavior to adulthood because that’s what nice people do. Well I’m here to tell you that you need to drop that courteous habit for the sake of our democracy. Because the rude people are winning and you need to learn from them. Now before you go into the whole stooping-to-their-level-makes-us-just-like-them spiel, hear me out.
What do the NRA, Anti-Choice Activists and Anti-Immigrant bigots have in common? They are rude as fuck: they throw tantrums, they are always on the offensive and so far, they are getting what they want. Even though most Americans are for sensible gun control, the NRA has somehow managed to maintain policy that will let your underage cousin with a fake ID buy a gun. People are literally dying and politicians won’t do shit. This is not just because the NRA has a ton of money – because they do. But it’s also that the NRA has crazy gun enthusiasts who will call and holler at their congress person at the sniff of any legislation trying to takeaway semi-automatic rifles. Meanwhile anti-abortion activists are winning right now because not only are they actively working at the local level to pass anti-choice legislation, but they are not willing to take no for an answer. These people are literally staging fake clinics to lie to woman about their abortion choices and I don’t even need to remind you about the fake video that really hurt Planned Parenthood. And lastly anti-immigrant bigots have managed to prevent any type of sensible immigration reform, because they will do anything, including electing a rapist to office to get what they want. Now most of these tactics are immoral because they violate the basic tenets of decency. So, what’s my point? Let’s be rude while maintaining our values.
The bottom line is that we progressives value human life; hence, supporting anyone or anything that denigrates another’s life makes you not a progressive. Kinda like eating chicken automatically makes you not a vegan. But being rude doesn’t always denigrate human life; it can actually enforce it. In fact, sometimes by not being rude you are actually being rude. I know that’s confusing, but take this as an example. When black people were not allowed to sit at lunch counters, they sat there to protest. Now sitting somewhere you are not invited is rude, but it isn’t rude to sit when someone is telling you can’t sit somewhere cause you are black. You get it? So, the takeaway here is that you should be annoying the shit out of your congress person every day until you get what you want at the very least. Advance level rudeness is shutting down an ICE office for a whole day.
I would say I hate to say this but democracy isn’t free….ugh brb going to wash my mouth out with soap. Back now. I mean I’ve been to so many marches this year because we are in jeopardy of losing everything. Yet, I haven’t gone to marches or protests to actually get something done. There are no marches for universal health care even though most people can’t afford health care. I only go to BLM marches after another black kid has been shot. We need to stop being reactive and get on the offense. We need to fight to get laws on the book that protect everyone, because if we don’t, the rude people will get laws passed to takeaway whatever protections we already have. And that is going to require us to whine, complain, and yell. All these things that your mama told you not to do. But we have to remember that all the rights that non-hetero-cis white men have gotten in this country have been been through blood and tears. Also, I don’t know about you, but my mother always told me to stand up for myself and others.