Every split second the feeling of deserving something washes over me, I remember the Time cover’s description of millennials as the “me me me generation” that drew ire from both haters and lovers of the largest generation since the baby boomers. Of course the article’s negative title juxtaposed its content’s celebration of millennial attributes that allow us to seek opportunity in instances when the older generations would have shied away. Nonetheless the notion that entitlement and millennials are synonymous has at times caused me and probably many others to question any thoughts of deserving or even seeking success. What the critics of entitlement fail to recognize or mention is that in order for one succeed at something they must feel like they deserve it. Feelings of unworthiness diminish the chances of goal accomplishment because the notion that one is undeserving manifests into behavior that prevents achievement aka self-sabotage. When I felt like I don’t deserve something in the past; these have been my actions.
Not taking a chance
Why enter that screenplay contest? There’s only one winner and I’m pretty sure I’m not it; other writers possess more skills and experience than me.
Not finishing it
What’s the whole point of even finishing that screenplay. Who am I to have the gall to believe that my story is any more special that anybody else’s story.
I just need more time to make my screenplay better. I mean I’m not the best writer anyway so it’s not like I’m losing out on anything by shelving it for a while.
Does this sound familiar to you? If so, the important next step is to determine the root cause of the belief that you are not deserving. It may be the fear of being a “typical” millennial, the fear of failure or self-loathing. Whatever it is, you owe it to yourself and your dreams to transcend unworthiness and feel deserving of your goals.